Contemplations of Spanking: An old school perspective

Boy oh boy, at this age, I am seeing more and more edits to those moral values that we were taught. The social rules and boundaries have changed drastically. What used to be ok back in the day, is frowned upon today.

Spanking your children is one such issue.

We have been told that spanking your child is wrong and can have severe, long lasting psychological effects on your children. In fact, to do so, is against the law and can cause much interference, inconvenience and stress in your life. Why? Because if your child tells their school officials that you spanked them, then the police are called and the local child services agencies are inserted in your life. wow......

Question to self: with all the whuppins I got, Am I psychologically damaged and just don't know it?? After all, didn't mom administer whuppins and then come back and tell you that she loved you?? and what you did was wrong?? and that she did not want to whup you? (:don't make me go get my paddle" "don't make me come in there!!")

i can remember quite vividly, momma, auntie, grandma and 'nem administering a sound whuppin when we did wrong. I can remember being petrified when we were told to "wait till your father gets home",,,, because that was a whuppin for sure.... 

I am a grandparent caregiver. I am of that generation of people who are having to raise their children's children. In more and more cases, drugs, general irresponsibility, teenage pregnancy, bad life decisions or the basic disintegration of the family unit has caused the grandparent to step in to be mother and father of the babies.... We gotta do what we gotta do. I am also of that generation that says in the area of child discipline, there are whuppable offenses. But now, if you whup 'em, the school can and will, call the police and the appropriate child services entity on you.

Preposterous.

In my opinion, and particularly in the case of raising boys, from a black perspective,  the nation has programmed itself to project how many young men will be in the prison system in years to come. They begin monitoring boy's behavior in the third grade. From this data, they can project how much prison space they will need. I'm trying to keep my boys in line before they get there... I will be doggone if they are going to be consumed by the system in this way. And if spanking them is part of that then spanking them I will.

I have noticed that once the child realizes that the parent is reluctant to administer corporal punishment, he is emboldened.... empowered.... the system has actually given power to the child. And they will try you....

The system is saying that they would rather allow immoral and unruly behavior than allow you to put your smack hand down on these kids. If junior sets a fire at school or steals or wreaks general havoc and refuses to complete his academics, then it's ok. They just want you to put them on time out.....  

man.... shoot........ I believe in spankings. With Love......